أحبك إلهي

إلهي ما أعظمك .. وما أجملك .. وما أرحمك .. وما ألطفك .. يا أرحم الراحمين .. يا من تدبيره فاق كل أمنياتي .. لا تترك لي أمر كتابة قدري فما تقدّره لي أجمل وأفضل .. وكيف أُحسن التدبير وأنا المخلوق الضعيف الذي لا تتجاوز رؤيته وتقديراته بضع سنواتٍ في أحسن الأحوال؟

ليس هناك من شيءٍ أو شخص يستحق حبًا يعادل حبك.. فأنت تملك كل الأشياء والبشر والأفئدة وتحركها كيف تشاء.. إن أحببتك حقًا وأحببتني أتتني كل الأشياء والبشر والأفئدة صاغرةً مع زهدي بها واستغنائي عنها

لمأشعريومًابقربٍمناللهكماشعرتبهفيالسنتينالأخيرتينولمتتجلىليبوضوححقيقةوجودهكمابرزتمؤخرًافيأصعبتجربةٍمررتبهافيعمري

في كل يومٍ يمر بي أرى دليلاً تلو الآخر على ذلك.. وكلما تركت أمرًا لعدم ارتياحي التام لرضا الله عنه ساق لي ربي ما هو أفضل بكثير.. لدرجةٍ لا أستطيع معها إنكار وجود الله أو فضله ورعايته ورحمته أو الاستهانة بذلك إلا إن عَمِيَ قلبي.. فأشكرك ربي على البصيرة

وكيف أستطيع أن أنقل لغيري ما أشعر به يقينًا من رعاية الله لي وتدبيره لأموري تيقني بوجود كل ما أراه حولي من أشياء ماديةٍ محسوسة؟

مثلي إنسانةٌ على درجةٍ كبيرة من الواقعية واحترام ملكات العقل الذي يطالب بالاقتناع شرطًا أساسيًا لتنفيذ أي فعل، لكن من قال أن ذلك يجب أن يدفعنا لأن نلغي درجةً عاليةً من الإحساس بما هو غير مرئيٍ لنا حاليًا.. وفق قدرات إدراكنا الحالية؟

خلال السنتين الأخيرتين كانت رعاية الرحمن معي في كل يوم… برزت لي جليّةً في أمورٍ لا أستطيع حتى تعدادها لكثرتها

رأيتها لي في كل خطوةٍ اتخذتها وأثناء كل فترة ضيقٍ وألمٍ وحزنٍ ومصيبةٍ ألمّت بي

 أيقنت إيقانًا راسخًا بأن كل مشيئة الله وجميع ما يقدره الله لنا وعلينا هو بالفعل خيرٌ كثير رغم كونه مؤلمًا جدًا في بعض الأحيان بدرجةٍ تحجب عنا حينها الحكمة وراءه إلا أنه يخفي بعده أجمل المفاجآت

لذلك كله لا يمكن إلا أقول أحمدك ربي مع كل نفسٍ يخرج مني، بعدد ما خلقت وبعدد ما كان وسيكون وباتساع الكون… و

أحبكأحبكياإلهي

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Whether Good or Bad, Today’s Internet Augments it..

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Addiction is not the only danger that lurks beneath the use of the internet and social media in their current form and functionality.

Obviously, no two persons browsing the internet are presented with the same news/article feeds. Instead, each gets results that are based on his historical use of the internet, his location, his personal profile, and several other factors. This so-called smart-feeds feature of the internet can be very useful or very dangerous. The feature that was first intended and utilized to show customers “more of the same” product, adopted first by Facebook, Twitter, then other social media organizations, has proliferated to search engines, YouTube and most forms of internet use. Hence, feeding the user more of his same ideals, inclinations, and tools that if classified as good, would serve the best interest of the user, the society, and morals. Whereas an endless stream of what could be classified as bad, harmful, immoral, narcissistic, materialistic, or even malicious and criminal will augment and nourish such seeds, inevitably creating monstrous humans. This means that the user gets more or less that which reinforces his own beliefs, be it virtuous and reasonable or evil and unreasonable, rather than a fair dose of all other beliefs, opinions, and information, thus countering the intended virtue of open mindedness and well-rounded view of topics.  These algorithms employed to predict and curate what the user sees do NOT have his best interest in mind, but are rather a means to get him more hooked on whatever feeds his interest, regardless of its affects or values, benefiting only the organizations that developed them..

This polarization in different directions is extremely dangerous and creates very heterogeneous societies. Diversity is essential but without extremism.

In short, smart-feeds create more of what you are, instead of helping you improve and evolve!!  It’s up to you to ensure you get a comprehensive view on different issues.

هذا الذي شُرّفت بالزواج به

لا يُذكر الناس بعد وفاتهم وبين الملأ الأعلى بنسبهم أو مناصبهم أو مالهم وإنما بمناقبهم وصلاح أعمالهم وسمو أخلاقهم

رقيق القلب يغلبه دمعه أمام أي موقفٍ إنساني أو عاطفي، لكن يتحلى بشجاعةٍ وقوة وإيمان كالتي يتصف بها أكثر الرجال صلابةً وقوة

جريءٌ في صراحته وقوله الحق على نفسه أولاً وعلى غيره أيًا كان ثانيًا، لا يهاب في ذلك أحدًا ولا يقيم وزنًا سوى لشرع الله مع التزامه في ذلك الاحترام ومراعاة شعور الغير

لا يتردد في الاعتراف بخطئه والاعتذار عن ذلك ولا يجد في ذلك أي حرجٍ أو انتقاص لرجولته وشخصه

لا تعنيه الممتلكات ولا الموازين ولا القيم الدنيوية في شيءٍ ولا يقيم لها وزنًا، لكنها الرغبة في مساعدة الفقير واليتيم والضعيف التي يحبها ويسعى إليها

قمةٌ في الكرم والسخاء على من يحتاج ويستحق، ضنينٌ على نفسه أولاً وعلى من لا يستحق ثانيًا، لا تحركه في ذلك أي محاباةٍ أو تملق أو مصلحة

ومع هذه الفضائل كلها تأتي خفةٌ في الظل وروحٌ مليئةٌ بالحياة تعشق المرح والسفر والرياضة واللعب وتعلم كل شيء وكافة الحرف والصنعات… نفسٌ إيجابية تتوق للتفوق في جميع النواحي… ووجهٌ باسم يكره العبوس

كأني طفلته….

لم أر منه يومًا تجاهي إلا حبًا وحنانًا واهتمامًا وقلقًا علي واحترامًا ودعمًا وسعيًا لإسعادي ومحبةً وودًا لأهلي لم أظنه يوجد في الواقع وإنما هو نسج الأفلام والروايات

غيرته عليّ كانت شديدة لكنها رائعة… فهي غيرة من يصون جوهرته ويحميها في كل لحظة دون أن يحجب لمعانها بأي قدر أو يحاول إخفاءها لأن ثقته بنفسه وبمدى حبه لي فاقت أي خوفٍ قد يتملكه من أن يأخذ غيره مكانه في قلبي

لا أستطيع وإن جهدت أن أذكر أنه في يومٍ رفع صوته أثناء محادثتي أو وجه لي كلمةً قد يكون فيها أي إساءةٍ أو إهانةٍ لي أو لأيٍ من أهلي

هاجسه كان كل ما يسعدني، فأعطاني من الذكريات الجميلة في سنتين ما يحتاج غيره إلى عمرٍ طويل من الزواج ليعطيه… ولولاه أيضًا ما استطعت استبقاء وحفظ لحظاتٍ ومشاعر هي الأهم والأغلى والأجمل في حياتي

آمن بقدراتي وذكائي إلى درجةٍ فاقت ما أقدره أنا في نفسي، وأشاد بي في أي جمعٍ أكثر مما أشاد بنفسه، واهتم لنجاحي أكثر مما اهتم لنجاحه… لكن الأروع أنه حتى أثناء مرضه العضال كان هاجسه هو قلقه عليّ حدًا تفيض معه دموعه.. ويقول لي: لا تهمني الحياة في شيء ولا أرجو زيادتها إلا قلقًا وخوفًا عليك بعد رحيلي، أنت سببي الوحيد لتمني الشفاء

استقامته وثبات مبادئه وخوفه من الله كان يزيدني إعجابًا به كل يوم… تعلمت منه الكثير وأنا التي قلما أثار شخصٌ إعجابي… أعطاني دروسًا في الحياة وفي ما هو مهم فعلاً من هذه الدنيا غيرتني للأبد

مثله صنيع الجنة وبإذن الله إليها يعود

أتمناه زوجًا في الجنة وأدعو ربي أن يجمعني به…

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Privilege in Calamity

I’ve searched for love for years, yearned for the feeling of being regarded as someone’s princess, lifelong dream and treasure, a survival necessity.  I seriously doubted this kind of love still existed nowadays, if it did I doubted even more it will come my way.  But I found it.. Finally.. Unbelievably… and it exceeded even my dreams and expectations…

Then it was taken away …

Such irony… When you think you have just gathered all the winning cards and gotten everything you ever wished for… At that very moment one of them gets taken away.

Don’t get me wrong… My wishes were never unrealistic or extravagant… I never cared for riches, fame or to live a dream life… I just longed for what I deem the elements of complete happiness (if there is really such a thing in this world)… Good health, wonderful children, comfortable living, a good job, amazing family and friends, fine social status and above all… Love!

I never wanted more, this was perfect, and I was extremely thankful, although I had to work hard to achieve most of the above.  Paid years of my life to have, and care for, what turned out to be amazing young men in a very challenging marriage of two conflicting personalities, but no regrets whatsoever.  So when I finally found the love I needed, I thought to myself I really cannot ask for, nor want, more.  I wished to be able to sustain what I had.  I didn’t care to become wealthy or super successful, but was elated that I finally had all my happiness essentials covered.  I wish it could’ve stayed this way.  It never does.  I enjoyed that for a year and a half then it was time to let go of one of them… Love!!

I’m still very thankful for that year and a half though… Many people go through life without experiencing it…

The tormenting part and what’s more difficult than separation is watching someone you love in pain… Life departing him slowly, daily.. Observing him transform from someone full of vigor, life, hopes and dreams to a helpless person whose biggest ambition is to be able to eat and sleep peacefully.

Despite the difficulties, I consider it a privilege that I am next to him while he’s going through this.  Taking care of him, comforting him, caressing his head and cheeks, giving him as much love as I can.

He gave me my best moments in life.  Did everything in his power, and was even creative, to make sure that the moments that mattered most to me were lived, enjoyed, captured and reserved in photos.  He went beyond the expectations or the norms in doing so.  In every minute of every day we were together, even throughout his sickness, what he worried most about was me.  I was his whole life.  He gave me life !

I’m immensely thankful for experiencing such love during my lifetime… We shall hopefully reunite again in the next eternal one

A Perspective on Praying

Today, my son apologized for “being too pushy”, nagging me to read a story he had written.  He said it’s only because my feedback is important to him.  I was not annoyed of course.  On the contrary, it made me very happy because, if anything, his nagging meant he acknowledges my expertise and skills in the field and values my feedback.  My opinion matters considerably to him, and that’s a very gratifying feeling that any parent can identify with.

His words gave me an insight into one of the reasons praying to God is of paramount importance, and why God loves that we pray and send requests to the point of nagging/insisting.

Some misrepresent God’s urging us to pray to be a self-satisfying need to feel greatness or power.  Well firstly, no being of such magnitude and powers would “need” the acknowledgement of us, the most insignificant creations.  He would be more concerned with the much grander creations (planets, galaxies, the whole universe) praying to Him (and we know they do!!).  It is we that need that.

Praying and asking God for forgiveness, for Him to be happy with you, or even for some worldly rewards, is actually a combination of the following:

  • Acknowledgement of His existence, powers and control over everything. And that nothing can happen or exist except by His wish and command.  It’s a declaration of Belief.
  • Demonstration of a need for Him.
  • Expression of concern and valuation of what He thinks.

It is a proof by deeds, not empty words, that you truly believe in Him, just in the same way that love cannot be substantiated merely with words.

A man tells a woman “he loves her”, yet she never hears from him.  She calls him 5 times a day, he dismisses the calls justifying that by replying that he’s too busy or has important meetings, he’s going out with friends, etc..  Can she still believe him? Wouldn’t she naturally question his love? Even breakup with him?! All she asked for was for him to at least call her for 5 minutes, five times a day, to tell her he remembers her, needs her, she means the world to him, and is everything in his life.  That’s the minimum a lover is expected to do.

Your employer continuously pays your salary, bonus, and other wonderful rewards.  You totally ignore his orders, are not on-time for meetings, you don’t report to him, nor even acknowledge his existence, let alone authority and judgement.  You go as far as disobeying his orders.  Isn’t it normal for him to dispense your services?!  You’re basically telling him you don’t need the money nor the position.

There is, above all that, a spiritual need for us to pray.  There’s a constantly nagging feeling when we don’t pray that we’re neglecting something important, duties, that we’re going to be accountable for!!  Our souls remain restless.

I heard once a very compelling deduction on “sleeping” (another one of science’s shortcomings of explaining why we need to sleep).  The human consists of two things: the physical body, and the soul/spirit.  The physical body’s needs are essentially the food, water and exercise.

The soul, on the other hand, has different types of needs that are equally crucial.  One of them is “sleep”! 

Sleep-deprivation leads to all kinds of issues, from weight gain to a weakened immune system, and even eventually death. And after decades of research and discoveries, the answer to the “Why we need to sleep?” is essentially not answered yet.  While it’s easy, for example, to explain the need for eating being the means to obtain the necessary nutrients, it’s not the same with sleep.  It’s not clear why the outcome of sleeping can’t happens while in the wake state.  Or what in essence is the difference between the wake and sleep states.

Islam explains “sleep” as being a form of death, calls it a “minor death”, during which the soul leaves the body and this realm, and floats to another.  The soul needs to make this separation every night, to evade this material existence, in order to rest, reset and recharge spiritually, coming closer to its Creator.  Afterwards, it either returns back to the body (if the person has more time to live) or doesn’t, and he’s declared medically dead.

This is one of the needs of the soul.  Another, is the need for the connection/communication with its Creator through prayer and supplication.  It greatly comforts the weary and anxious soul.

He needs our prayer?!  A being that created such an unfathomable universe with all its creatures, the ones we know and the much more we have yet to know, needs us tiny little beings to acknowledge that he’s powerful?! Really?!!

It is we that need to reach out to Him and draw ourselves closer to Him.  And He Knows that, because He created us and is merely telling us how to live our lives in the manner that brings us happiness and serenity.

Do Not Cheer Me When I’m Wrong

Do Notpraise me if I don’t deserve praise.

Do Nottell me I look good just to flatter me, or hoping that I “return the compliment”.

Do Notlike my photos, posts, or what I write if you don’t really like them or you disagree.

Do Notsend me happy birthday wishes if you do it out of courtesy or duty.

Do Notgift me for any reason other than sincerely wanting to.

Do Not tell me you like me or miss me if you really don’t.

Do Not commend any of my acts if they’re wrong or unjust.

Do Not support me if I stray.

Do Not tell me I’m good when I’m being bad.

One genuine, loving, sincere word is to me worth much more than all the fake likes and compliments.  And one genuine, sincere, loving friend is worth a hundred fake ones.

I totally understand being nice to people, wanting to make them feel great and lifting up their spirits.  This is honorable and commendable.  But when it’s done for special interests, expecting reciprocation, in social hypocrisy, or for fear of upsetting the praised person, it becomes ugly and distasteful.

Am I Happily Unmarried?

(Written before my second, hopefully lasting, marriage).

A few days ago I was asked if I was happy being unmarried.  The answer came out without hesitation: “It’s absolutely much better than having to live with the wrong person, yet again, worse than being with someone that you love.”

Becoming single once again gave me so many things that I’m thankful for.  It, most importantly, showed me my strengths, that I am perfectly capable of sustaining myself, succeeding, living on my own without relying on anyone, something I’ve cherished from an early age.  It introduced me again to my passions, the things I like to do but have always set aside in favor of other priorities.  I re-discovered Me.  I was forced to learn to do stuff I never knew anything about because there was always someone else handling them.

We leave our parents’ safe-haven to the guardianship of our partner without learning the essentials of life and survival.  We remain shielded from the realities of paying the bills, rental procedures, employment contracts, car maintenance, etc.  This is not to be misunderstood as being the parents’ mistake, rather our wrong, misinformed decision to get married and completely surrender our reins before knowing what life is all about and learning the rules of the “jungle”.

This period of independence and self-reliance is essential, preferably before marriage.  The self-discovery and self-improvement would even make things easier on the partner and increase the marriage’s potential for success.

Other benefits of being single we all know..

First there’s the obvious, having the bed ALL to yourself 🙂 .  Then, not having to coordinate your plans, time and vacations or compromise on anything you enjoy doing.  Traveling as you wish and exercising all the spontaneity your heart desires.  You’re not responsible for anyone, nor are you accountable to anyone.  You’re the master of your life.

Drifting in thought while counting my blessings, I stop for a couple of minutes and go back to an idea I always believed in..

“Being married to someone you deeply love and get along very well with is Heaven on Earth.”

All accomplishments, achievements, fortunes, and good times, dwindle against the fulfillment of  sharing them with someone special.  Sharing the laughter, stories, pains, planning, traveling, and rewards.  After all, what meaning and flavor is there to life if not for the happy moments.

And no amount of success, richness, makeup, and surgeries can make you look and feel as beautiful and radiant with glow and shine as when happily in love.

Surely, “The only reason for marriage is love” _Diana Spencer

آفة التندر والسخرية

لم أجد شعوبًا توظّف التندر والاستهزاء بالآخرين مادةً لضحكاتها قدر الشعوب العربية، ولا أجد أقوامًا تضيع وقتها في صياغة النكات مثلنا.. وليتها جاءت من شعوب تملك مقومات الغرور والشعور بالفوقية.. أم أنه الشعور المبطّن بالضعف والنقص والازدحام بالعيوب أو قلة الحيلة يدفع صاحبه لتصيّد ما يغطي به سوأته؟؟؟

وبغض النظر عن وجود تلك العيوب والصفات التي يخصونها بالسخرية بالفعل.. لا يحق لأحدٍ أن يسخر من أحد أو يقلّل من شأنه… وبالأخص في سماته الخُلُقية وظروف حياته، أو طريقة كلامه ومشيته وملبسه، وغير ذلك

أرجو أن لا يساء فهمي بأنني ضد الضحك، بل أنا في الحقيقة أعشقه… إلا أنني لا أرضى أن يكون ذلك على حساب آخرين وإن لم يصلهم

وإن كانت السخرية من الخصال التي تدخل في صميم تكويننا وحمضنا النووي فلنوجهها على من يظلم العباد أو يكذب أو يؤذي غيره، ولتكن في أفعاله تلك فقط وليس في شكله أو عيوبه الخُلُقية أو مظهره.. ولنوظّف طاقاتنا المبهرة على الإضحاك في إصلاح آفات مجتمعنا وما أكثرها

So, what IS Islam?

It’s all about being virtuous and good to others.  Treating with utmost kindness, mercy, and generosity your parents, children, neighbors, the orphans, the helpless, the poor, and even the captive.

Refrain from and denounce all that is bad: Drinking Alcohol, stealing, committing adultery, fornication, gambling, lying, cheating, hypocrisy, treating anyone with injustice, racism or inequality, gluttony, greed, selfishness, arrogance, harming others from any faith or background in anyway or form.

Perform and promote all that is good:  Love, peace, equality among all God’s creatures, justice even on oneself or those closest, treating parents with utmost respect, being kind to and NOT causing harm to any of God’s creatures, human, animals, even as tiny as ants, or plants; honesty, charity, generosity, fidelity, mercy, forgiveness, visiting the sick, and not taking anything that was not rightfully hard-earned.

Main Differences from Christianity?

Why would your Creator give you something then ask you NOT to use it?  

  1. Islam doesn’t ask you to take/accept things and believe them merely on faith, on the contrary, it calls on people to use the most precious gifts they were given: Their minds, intellect, and senses.  In the Quran, verse after verse calls on mankind to observe, seek knowledge, reflect, and ask questions and ultimately connect the dots by using the faculties of human reason, confident in that sincere seeking of the truth only leads to God.  Terms used in the Quran in various contexts can best be translated as “to reason”, “reflect”, “ponder”, etc.

God urges mankind to practice “critical thinking”, not ordinary or shallow thinking. 

2.  There is no God but The One and Only God. He has no child nor was He born.  All prophets, including Abraham, Moses, Jesus, and Muhammad, are human and messengers chosen to convey His message to the peoples.

Similarities with Christianity?  

  • Muslims are sincere and accurate followers of everything prophet Jesus preached. Their way of praying, fasting and their view of The Creator aligns with that which prophet Jesus taught.  Jesus never, in the original scriptures, claimed at any point that he was God or preached to be regarded as God, or introduced Trinity, or said he was the son of God.  Evidence to that can be found in the Bible.
  • One CANNOT be considered a Muslim UNLESS he truly believes in Jesus.  Loves, respects and regards him as highly as he regards prophet Muhammad and every other prophet.

The single and most important advice

Do not take anyone’s word for it, even mine.  Conduct your own research with a pure, unbiased heart that genuinely seeks to know what is good and right.  Do not be a follower of mainstream media or how it portrays and stereo-types Muslims.  Do not even look to Muslims to judge the Religion, a huge percentage of them are not practicing Muslims just like most Christians aren’t.  Some may even have insufficient knowledge, or an incorrect understanding and hence provide the wrong information.

Quran’s standing challenges:

  • No person could ever create a chapter or even verse that is as strong and profound in structure, wording, meaning and effect as the Quran.
  • There can be no contradiction or anything that does not make perfect sense in the Quran.
  • There can be no contradiction in the Quran with any proven scientific fact neither now or ever.
  • Not a single word or letter was ever altered by humans. It consists ONLY of words of the Creator conveyed to his prophet Muhammad.
  • Any alteration of even a single letter impacts the miraculous structure of the Quran.

Do yourself a favor… READ the Quran and other books on Islam.  No one loses anything from reading a book !!  It will at least give you a better understanding of the religion unjustly under attack nowadays.

(Video below is the recitation of the very first, opening, chapter of the Quran, with translation). 

 

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Greatness comes in different forms…

It’s not “pretentious respect”… It’s not about being flamboyant, dazzling or charming the woman in your company with “the right moves, looks and words”… It’s about honest, genuine, and deep respect; genuine love, that manifests itself loud and clear not just in her presence, but more importantly in her absence

If I hadn’t seen it first-hand, I would NEVER have believed such a man, especially an Arab, existed.

This man sets the bar so high, although essentially this is EXACTLY how marriage should be.  Restoring my faith in men, eliminating a myriad of bad stories I heard and saw associated with marriage, there are wonderful men out there, in every sense of the word “Wonder”.

So here’s the story…

A few days ago I was invited to a dinner with several people, high status business men and women.  One character was especially astounding to me, actually to everyone, not for any reason other than his unbelievable love, loyalty, and respect to his wife of 35 years of marriage.  The man literally spent half of the whole evening (if not more) talking about nothing other than her, how deeply in love he was with her, how he respects her and his in-laws, how proud he is that he never EVER cheated on her with another, not even with as much as a phone call, or a single flirtatious word.  How they never eat a meal, travel, attend an event, without each other.  How even when he has to take the odd quick trip without her, he doesn’t start having breakfast till he turns on his mobile (which has a picture of her smiling as wall paper!!) and places it in-front of him then starts eating.

I wouldn’t have believed it, and would’ve thought he’s idolizing himself in order to impress, had he not have her photo as mobile cover, had countless photos of her walking, talking, eating, laughing, the guy was as obsessed as anyone could be with the one he loves.  He showed us a sample of his daily morning whatsapp messages to her (and to his two daughters, lest they’d get jealous, which were also different than the mother’s messages) containing sweet words of love and prayer that God Blesses and Protects her for him.

I wouldn’t have believed it had I not seen myself how as he was approaching us from afar to the location of the restaurant to make intros, and was accompanying one of the businesswomen (stunning if I may add), had kept meters separating them while walking, actually even using the slope while she used the stairs with a rail barrier in between, simply because he never wants to put himself in a position of suspicion, any slight temptation, or even insinuate in any way to this lady or any other, EVER, that he might even consider any personal communication with any other than his wife.  He mentioned he even usually calls his wife when with a company comprising ladies and puts the video on making intros so that she and the ladies feel that her presence (even if just virtual) is respected.

It wasn’t out of fear as one may think, because there’s no way for his wife to verify any of his stories in her absence.  Nor was it for religious reasons because, as he put it, “Although it’s what our religion calls for, but to me it is more of what I consider to be the logical, ethical and acceptable approach to establishing a solid relationship, setting the standard and model for the whole household”.  (For those curious, he’s a Muslim).

It was merely and purely out of tremendous respect for his lifetime partner, and very high moral standards he’d set for himself and boasts of.

It was felt in every single word he said as he went on and on about her, her family, their way of life.  He was also describing why this has to be the way in marriage, and the way a wife is treated.  I just couldn’t believe my ears comparing his words to the pathetic patterns we see and hear of nowadays, defacing the concept and institution of marriage.  Those who glorify themselves in managing God-knows how many cheating incidents, “living their life to the fullest” without being caught.

And as if this all wasn’t enough, and to the surprise of all surprises, came the last and most profound piece of evidence that sealed my belief in the genuineness of this man’s words.

As we headed out and waited for our cars to be brought by the valet, he called her.  Yes, he did, for a quick chat.  Not the last one for the day as he explained, since there’s still that call right before going to bed.  But that wasn’t what surprised me.  What to me was absolutely incredible was the look on his face while he talked to her, his facial expressions, the glow and smile on his face as they joked and giggled, the tremendous amount of love you could see in his gleaming eyes.  It was as if he was talking to her for the first time.  Our cars came and he was still talking to her, we waited courteously till he (reluctantly) ended his call to bid us farewell.

Nothing could describe the way he looked while talking to her better than a teenager talking to his new found love.  You just can’t fake that !!!

His own words were: “If not her, the one who believed in me enough to trust her life and future with me, who else deserves my respect and honor out of all the people I deal with throughout life?!”….

 

Greatness truly comes in different forms… God Bless him, his wife, his family, and the love they share.

And just an FYI, this man is ex-military for many years, yet he comes with such humility and tender heart towards his wife and family first and foremost, then towards other people.

Amen for all men !!!

Women, don’t settle for less, but you have to be to him a wife worthy of such love.  It always takes two.

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