My ONLY New Year’s resolution: to become a better and stronger person in every way, so help me God!!!
Physically, intellectually, professionally, ethically, charitably, socially, a better daughter, mother and companion, a more focused sense of purpose …
And maybe much less Social media 😄
فكرٌ عربيٌّ متخلف يقول للمرأة الأكبر سنًّا أو التي سبق لها الزواج: “إرضي واقنعي” رغم ما تتمنّاه…
وأقول: بل لا تقبلي بأقل مِن مَن وصل إلى درجةٍ من التميّز والرقي تناسب ما وصلت إليه شخصيّتك التي صقلتها السنين والتجارب لتصبح الأجمل والأروع والأكمل من أي وقتٍ مضى.. ودعي مقاييس سنوات العمر وزواجٍ مسجّل على ورقة رسمية في أرشيفٍ ما، لمن لا يرى أبعد من ذلك، هذا النوع من الرجال لا يعنيكِ بأي قدر!!
طبعًا عن المرأة التي تهتم بتطوير ذاتها دائمًا ومن كافة النواحي أتحدث .. وعن المرأة التي لا تسعى وراء ثروةٍ أو مظهرٍ اجتماعي مزيّف
خاطرة على فنجان نسكافيه J
تكبّلنا وتُثقل خطواتنا أفكارٌ وعادات تقليدية قديمة لا أساس لها من الدين، يفرضها مجتمعٌ ديكتاتوري متسلط وتلبسنا قناعًا يلغي شخصياتنا الحقيقية العفوية المرحة التي غالبًا ما تكون أجمل وأكثر جاذبية، فنخرج وقد جُرّدنا من تميّزنا وتفرّدنا…!
أمجّد الدين وأعشق ربي وأرفض ذاك الذي يجعلني وجهًا آخر لشخصيةٍ مستنسخة فقط إرضاءً لمجتمع لست مدينةً له سوى بالانتماء، ولا يرضيه !! اختلاف، ولا ينتج شيئًا غير النقد
ندى السمان
In moments of despair, and they do creep on each one of us every now and then, hold on to your faith and optimism. Stop to only think of all the good things you have in life that other people are deprived of, it could be health, family, power, possessions, beauty, intelligence, your distinguished character, or a wealth of amazing friends that keep you grounded when you’re being too dreamy and unrealistic, and take to the moon when you just cannot see even your next step.
It does magic… And all will be wonderful !!
If your primary purpose from having children is having someone to lean on in old age, allow me to say it’s selfish. Having children should be for the greater purpose of continuity of life.
The things I do or did for my children are purely out of love, I hate to consider them a debt they have to repay. It takes away the glory of motherhood and of being a female.. a life- and love-giver.
All I want is for them to be safe and happy, I’ll always do my best to see to it, not expecting any returns or rewards, or for them to follow in my same footsteps or adopt my ideas and opinions.. Rather, I shall learn from them a new outlook to life.. Just as they have learned from me, one day, how to take the first steps… How to start right !!
Set the children free from the slavery of guilt and duty, and entrapment in our own old school of thought !!
I’ve always found it easier to express my thoughts in writing rather than in speech.. I don’t really know what the underlying psychological reasoning in, nor is it of significance.. Whenever I needed to make an important request (even from my father), explain a sensitive issue, or express something emotional, my favourite instrument would be a pen !!
The essence of the matter is that I love to write..
For the sake of writing? Maybe. It’s always been a passion and something I excel in.
For the sake of filling my time? Not really. I can’t even find the time for it. I’m wondering how I’m adding blogging to my life even as I write this.
But certainly because I have thoughts I’d love to share. Some that I feel strongly about, others I’m not sure of and would love to hear other perspectives on, and finally, some crazy spur-of-the-moment ones (those may have come to me as I put myself to bed, first thoughts when I wake up, or that just popped-up and I felt excited about and didn’t lend much analysis or research to). Definitely don’t adopt any of the above in your life before you do your own homework.
My blogs do represent my views and ideals, hence my character. They are not, however, related in any way or give details of my personal life. This to me has to be kept in restricted circles.
Stories included, while real, are about miscellaneous characters, people I’ve met and discussed topics with throughout my life. Actual names or details that may reveal the actual person shall not be revealed.
Finally, I started this because I definitely want to learn from you, gain more insights and expand my views on various matters.
Please excuse my lack of experience in blogging.. I’m still a toddler !!! 🙂
الزواج في جوهره وأصوله الشرعية هو إشهارٌ وإعلانٌ لحبٍ على الملأ، لطرفين متحابّين يرغبان في حياةٍ تجمعهما
المسؤوليات التي تترتّب عليه تتلخّص في إسعاد الطرف الآخر والإخلاص في دعمه حتى يحقق كلاهما ما فيه مصلحة كلٍ منهما ومصلحة حياتهما معًا.. لا يحقّ لأي طرفٍ منهما التسبب للآخر بأي أذى أو استغلاله… وعندما يستحيل الوفاق “فإمساكٌ بمعروف أو تسريحٌ بإحسان”…صدق الله العظيم
…نعم ينبغي توثيقه تمامًا كما نحرص على توثيق أيٍ من أمور حياتنا فهو الأولى والأهم شأنًا
أي تعقيداتٍ أُدخلت بعد ذلك هي من صنع البشر… وأي ممارساتٍ خاطئة وظلم هم نتيجة استهانة أحد الطرفين بالآخر وعدم احترام مشاعره ورغباته
ندى السمان
Nada I. Samman - ندى عصام السمّان 